First Realisations

There’s a difference between friends and … wow, you’re pretty cute!

Who we are attracted to is a pretty important part of our lives, but it is only one aspect of who we are.

There can be many thoughts and emotions swirling around inside our bodies and minds. Sometimes we are consumed with nice feelings of wonderment, curiosity and intrigue. But sometimes, not too far behind comes caution, loneliness, confusion and fear.

“If this is all natural, normal and happens to every person, then why am I feeling like I need to hide my feelings and thoughts, not just from my friends and family but sometimes even from myself?”

Attraction is about feelings, exploration and wanting to know more. Every person experiences these thoughts and feelings in some way – they are natural!

These emotions can happen at any time in your life – the realisation of attraction can be gradual or sneak up on you like a tiger ready to pounce!

Accepting who you are

You may be thinking, if this is all natural, normal and happens to every person, then why am I feeling like I need to hide my feelings and thoughts, not just from my friends and family but sometimes even from myself?

Family, friends and society

Life is full of mystery and attraction is no different. We know that same-sex attraction is natural but sometimes it is not accepted within our society or by our families and friends.

More importantly, sometimeswe can struggle to accept it ourselves.

Some of the biggest challenges for all of us can be the battle between the thoughts and messages we receive from the outside world and our own internal feelings. And that’s understandable!

The majority of our beliefs and understandings come from the society and culture we live in, and part of getting older is about developing our own understandings about everyday things like what food we like to eat, music, clothes or what job we might like to do.

Trying to sort out what we think and feel about sexuality is no different to sorting out how we think and feel about many things.

So while it is important what our friends and family think and believe about sexuality, it may be more important for us to understand
ourselves first.